Thursday, May 23, 2013

For him or for her or simply for me?

There is a conundrum in my mind that makes me seek out more research... my question being:
Are you a girl that dresses for girls, or a girl that dresses for guys?  Or, are you both or neither?  This probably is a result of my interest in the complexity of the Man Repeller and all that she represents, and high fashion. 

Hand any average guy (not particularly interested in fashion) a women's fashion magazine and what is the result?  Probably any range of confused looks or sarcastic comments.

I do not believe that one needs to constantly dress to impress men, be that by wearing tight jeans, sexy tops, or basically anything from the Victoria's Secret catalogue.  Sometimes it can be just as exhausting trying to keep up with the fashions that will only impress other females, (check out Chictopia for any kind of reference). 

Luckily I have a man that embraces the fact that I dress for the ladies of fashion, although I do keep in mind that I selfishly do want to appeal to my husband.  It's a hard balance and one that I probably spend too much time trying to maintain.  My husband basically told me that I am "good at clothes." And what does that say about me?  I know he didn't mean that I am not good at other things, like I kick butt in the kitchen; I am pretty awesome at decorating; I help Aveline with all her school projects and make them awesome; I can throw a good party or a chic small gathering in a minute... I have a knack for certain things.  When the first thing he says is that I am good at clothes, should I be offended? 

Blogging, especially in the fashion blogosphere has sometimes contributed to my stress levels as much as it has contributed to my joy.  My number one personal joy is writing.  My number two personal joy is fashion and the things that come along with it: clothes, photos, modeling, etc.  Blogging has allowed me to express both joys together and I love it.  On the other hand, blogging has lead to negative things in my life, such as shopping too much (I am not a sponsored or famous blogger); spending extra time on the computer when I could be doing any number of other things; being more self conscious about how I look, what I wear and how many times I wear it, and worrying about taking good enough photos to post (yelling at my husband to take said necessary photos).  I am overwhelmed at times, as I am not sure this is what I wanted my blog to be about in the first place.
I am on the verge of seeking employment and I wish that I could find a reliable job in the fashion industry... not in the creative side, but in the business side of things.  I have no idea where to start, but I need to focus and research and seek to find.  And if I don't find anything that works, maybe I will just find a job that will allow me to support my family, and support my love of fashion and clothes.

I don't know what my point is on this rant anymore.  I don't want to stop caring about fashion and clothes and how much fun I have when I get to put outfits together... it's not particularly a problem, except to some it may be a vanity issue.  My daughter expresses the fact that she likes having a mom that dresses up all the time, and I make it a point to dress her up too. 

Anyhow... if you change styles throughout your life, what inspires you to change?  Is it for yourself? For a new man in your life?  A new girl friend you hang out with who is into certain trends?  Is it the city you live in? Oh, if I could only live in a city!!!   Who knows what I would be wearing daily?!


xoxo...
Vanessa

Friday, May 17, 2013

Outfit: Neon Frills

This was my Mother's Day outfit and I honestly cannot wait to find a reason to wear this dress again!  It's a Prabal Gurung for Target dress and it was one of the pieces I really wanted, and for some awesome reason it made its way to the sale rack!  It is risky with the ruffles, and I think it works. The dress is adorable from all angles.






I tried to keep the details simple: nude and sparkle, since the dress is super loud on it's own.  The fun thing was that I dressed Aveline in her neon dress, so we matched, and then my mom was wearing a limey green maxi dress (unplanned!)...

The fit is right on and I love the placement of the waistband and how the ruffles edge around the back.  Definitely a great piece added to my wardrobe I think! I already have a few other styling ideas for it as well. I think this is a more versatile piece than my Rodarte for Target piece (which I am thinking of selling).

I hope every mom had an awesome Mother's Day.  I know mine was amazing thanks to my wonderful family!

xoxo...
Vanessa

What I wore:
Prabal Gurung x Target dress.
Qupid crystal sandals
 

Monday, May 13, 2013

Outfit: More of the same

I was trying to get a moment to wear these pants before the heat of the world gets turned up and all I wind up wearing are shorts and dresses. 
NEON jeans!  love love love.
And some tall-ass-plats!  Not very friendly for walking on my stone patio.





This combo is nothing new... neon, black, white.  I love it. It's not gonna stop.  Let's keep going.

What I wore:

Knit white and striped tank, from Kohls I think.
Neon jeans from F21.
Shoes from Reflections Shoes.
 Accessories from a shop in Lake Tahoe  South.

Ps... What do you think of the new tattooooooo?!?  My NY tribute... my roots and ancestry.

xoxo...
Vanessa

Saturday, May 11, 2013

On being a MOM

Upon doing some thoughts about being a mom, I thought I would put it out in writing... in a weird self Q&A format at that!


My favorite thing about being a mom?

Being a mom means that you will never feel lonely ever again.  You will feel a LOT of things, but lonely is never one of them.  You have an automatic, perfect little best friend whenever you need them and they feel the same about you! It's the most satisfying feeling in the world that no one ever told me to expect!

The hardest thing about being a mom?

Being consistent all the time... but I think that goes along with trying to be perfect.  There needs to be stretchiness and rubberyness in being a mom.  Sometimes you have to let things slide, and you have to hope that it won't bite you in the butt later.

The thing you feel most guilty about?

I feel guilty that I let so many things distract me.  Anything from housework, which needs to get done, to things that entertain me and only me, like facebook, blogging, magazines, etc.  Will I miss out on things?  If I were to add up every minute I spend doing those things rather than giving attention to her, would I miss out on significant time with her?  I am so lucky and blessed to be a stay at home mom and spend every moment I can with my child, but at the same time, I rarely get to miss her, and that can be hard too, and I feel guilty for putting this out there, but it's the truth.  We spend so much time together, sometimes we just wind up fighting and bickering.  That's what I feel guilty about.

What am I doing different than what my mom did with me?

Everyone goes through the "when I'm a parent I'm gonna do things differently..."  Well, honestly, I had an amazing mom and I really try to be a lot like her and I think I also AM a lot like her.  She expected a lot from me, so I expect a lot from my daughter, and it seems to be yielding good results.  I think the big difference is that I am a lot goofier than my mom.  I bring the silliness and drama and I try not to sweat the small stuff.  I let things slide a little more maybe?  I don't know. It's hard to tell... maybe when she gets a little older I will be able to tell the difference between my mom and my own parenting philosophies.

What are my motherly hopes for the future?

I hope that no matter what I do, or what Aveline does, I hope she tries and tries really hard at everything she does.  I think it will create better opportunity for her, and I will hopefully be able to guide her opportunities in her favor.  I think I was good at many things, but I didn't try hard enough and I didn't seize opportunities the way I probably could or should have.  I hope she has self confidence and smarts and loves to read.  I hope she has talents that will thrive with encouragement from my mothering.  I hope I can relax and stop yelling all the time, because it's just bad... I don't want to be the mean mom that yells all the time.  Those are my vague but strong hopes.


All in all... I love my daughter, with all my heart and soul and I fear for her and because she depends on me in this terrible world I have the wonderful burden of caring and loving and protecting her.  I hope that she knows I try, really hard.  And I hope she knows that I will always try to do better.  

I LOVE YOU AVELINE! Thank you for making me a mom!

xoxo...
Vanessa aka Momma Mommy Mom  

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Mother's Day coming up

I love the fact that I am a mom and that my daughter is such an important part of my life! I get to spend every day with her and that in itself is a gift.  I try not to act too entitled, (except on my birthday and then bring on the spoiling!) so Mother's Day is still something to get used to.

Mother's Day in the past has had a few bad associations... we moved away on mother's day a few years ago, my husband was deployed right before Mother's Day just last year.  I think this one will be great!

This Mother's Day is going to be awesome simply because I will have my daughter and husband with me, HOWEVER... if I could plan the day out it might include:

1... Lunch.  Sushi or Chinese food or both!  I don't want to cook or clean, and I want a reason to get dolled up.  And I would LOVE for my mom and Grandmother to join us!

2... Photos.  Of me and Aveline and the husband too... we haven't taken any family photos in a looong time.  And being dolled up, it would be awesome to take advantage of us being dressed up.

3... Maybe presents?!  from Aveline... And I want to give my mom and grandmother something for sure.

4... (Weather permitting) POOL PARTY. Tanning, tasty beverages, lounging, hanging with my Aveline and Jorden.  AND Jorden either BBQ-ing something or picking up fried chicken and sides (again, no cleaning for me ;-)).  It sounds like the perfect afternoon/evening for me!

Also... a little dessert from the Nugget bakery wouldn't be amiss ;-) (they have lavender macarons!!!)

So, on this gloomy Tuesday, I am hoping for a delightful Sunday ahead with my awesome family!

To all my fellow awesome moms out there, what would be the perfect fun Mother's Day for you?!

xoxo...
Vanessa