This is my 300th post and I am so excited to be able to share something extra special with everyone! My first guest post/feature, with a Sacramento local blogger at that!
There is something relevant about Miss Emily Grove, the creator and writer at the blog Emmie's Playground at Emginsight.com. Her writing is fiercely evident of the fact that she means every word she writes and she doesn't give a fuck who dares to criticize because she writes from her soul, and it doesn't get more real or honest than that... and she is a comic genius on top of it all!
Censorship is an issue in the world of writing and some writers, such as myself, will catch themselves self-censoring. Well, the world is absolutely not censored. Life is not censored. Emily gives it all and I think people that read her work can easily be touched by it, relate to it on a raw human level as well as be shocked by it.
I found Emily on facebook and added her, honestly, because she was smokin' hot! I looked at her info and saw the link to her blog and though to myself, WOW, smokin hot, not blonde and a blogger! Definitely had to "friend" her, and from then on I was hooked and waited patiently for every new post.
On top of everything, she is a mom! A young mom, like myself, with a gorgeous little girl. As much as I love to write about fashion and clothes, being a mom is the best, most important thing in my life and I think Emily feels the same way.
Here is my interview with the fabulous Miss Grove:
There is something relevant about Miss Emily Grove, the creator and writer at the blog Emmie's Playground at Emginsight.com. Her writing is fiercely evident of the fact that she means every word she writes and she doesn't give a fuck who dares to criticize because she writes from her soul, and it doesn't get more real or honest than that... and she is a comic genius on top of it all!
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I found Emily on facebook and added her, honestly, because she was smokin' hot! I looked at her info and saw the link to her blog and though to myself, WOW, smokin hot, not blonde and a blogger! Definitely had to "friend" her, and from then on I was hooked and waited patiently for every new post.
Here is my interview with the fabulous Miss Grove:
I really admire the fact that you are so frank with your
writing. Your art and paintings are both
to-the-point and deep in the same moment.
Where does your inspiration and creativity come from?
Creativity? Well I
would have never considered myself creative until about 2 years ago, when I
decided to give up alcohol and drugs and live a healthy lifestyle. With a clear mind, and healthy body,
creativity is possible for anyone.
My first thought was experience, but on a second thought,
it’s not just the experience alone. I
had “experienced” since the time I was born, but it wasn’t until I started
learning from my experience that I started experiencing inspiration. Once I became willing to learn from my
experience, I was able to integrate the lessons from those experiences into my
life. It was then that I became open to
change. Life is in a constant state of
change. You can either fight it, or go with it.
But what I’ve learned is, if you spend all your time trying to fight
change, you will be too busy to even notice the inspiration. I believe my inspiration comes from some
outside source, something higher than myself, but something which is too
complex for the human mind to fully grasp. I believe that I was able to finally use my
inspiration when I became willing to change no matter if at that time, the
change was in my favor.
I know you have a beautiful little girl. I am not particularly a “kid person” but I
believe that some people are meant to have children at a certain time in their
lives. I am a mom too and I love
hearing/reading other mom’s stories of how their precious one came into their
lives… could you tell me your story?
Outside looking in, no one would have thought I was ready to
be a mother, and at that time I wouldn’t have thought I was ready either. I was deep in a heavy addiction to alcohol. I was in a physically and mentally abusive
relationship. I did not have a stable
income and I was a college dropout. I
was able to stay sober during my pregnancy and for about 6 months after she was
born, but it wasn’t long before I picked it back up. It wasn’t that she wasn’t enough for me to
stay stopped, but I was too busy fighting the change that needed to take place
to see what needed to be done. However,
it wasn’t until she was born that I realized that what I was doing and how I
was living wasn’t just affecting me. It
was affecting her and all the others around me.
She sparked something in me,
unexplainable, but it forced me to look outside myself. I realized how selfish I had been
living. It was the first time in my life
I became willing to change and not only that, but willing to accept the help I
needed. Now looking back, she was my
angel sent from God, and she arrived right on time.
You have some amazing and awe-inspiring stories on your
blog. You talk about sex from both a
fun-horny-sexual point of view as well as a realistic-medical-practical
perspective. Are you going to be as open
and honest with your daughter about sex as you are with your readers when she
is old enough to read and understand?
Yes, definitely.
Somewhere along the way in history, sex became taboo-- for what reason I
cannot explain. Over the years, it has
gotten a lot better. I believe it’s very
important to be honest with your
children about sex. Sex is normal. Sex is healthy. Of course, it can be abused just like
anything else. I also believe it is
important to talk about the dangers of abusing sex and unsafe sex. Advocate and educate them about safe sex. Bottom line, you’re not going to be able to
stop your kids from doing what they want.
So it is best to be honest, educate them and hope they make the right
decision. If you are honest with your
children, they are more likely to be honest with you. So when that time comes that they don’t make
the right decision, which at some point they won’t, you will be able to be
there for them and guide them.
What are your favorite things to do with your daughter? What is a typical day like for Maya and
Mommy?
My favorite thing to do with Maya would have to be just
hanging out with her. We go to the park
and meet new friends and sometimes we stay at home and paint together. I talk
to her. She talks to me. We laugh together. And sometimes she makes fun of me. The bond we share is a miracle and our
relationship continues to change and grow every day. I wouldn’t ever say we have a typical day;
Maya always brings something new to the table, whether it’s a new word, a new
dance move, a new cry, or even a new way of throwing a fit. Maya is very special, and she knows it. I make sure to tell her every day. She’s not always happy with me and I might
not always be happy with her but I’m always proud of her.
I am not trying to bring up stereotypes or superficial
observations, but let me state the obvious: you are young, super hot, and
tattooed in awesomeness. Do you ever
deal with other moms’ criticism? Do you
find most moms to be like you, or do you feel like you are the “odd one out” in
the mom-circuit?
I haven’t had to deal with any criticism from other
moms. Maybe because my daughter hasn’t
started school or maybe because I am just too busy enjoying my life to even
notice… Although I meet many other moms
at the park, and the majority are enjoyable experiences. I would say,
I’m just like any other mom living in society today, loving their child
and doing the best they can to raise
them.
Fun question: What
are your plans for the holidays? What
does Maya want for Christmas (if you celebrate it)?
Fortunately Maya hasn’t gotten to that stage of wanting
everything she might see on the television.
But I know she loves Barbies, books, and coloring. Santa will have a couple new Barbies, some
new coloring books and night time books under the Christmas tree this
year. This is actually going to be the
first year I have my own Christmas tree in my own house and I can’t wait to
decorate the tree with Maya. When I was
young my mother would leave a Santa hat in the chimney. I loved believing in Santa. I will carry on that tradition. I believe it is important for kids to
experience the joy and faith in believing in something. We will be spending all of the holidays here
with me, daddy #2 and little Maya. Our
little happy family together ever after.
Tell us more about your blog… You
write stories, poems, “lessons” and personal sexual advice amongst other
topics… What kind of things are you hoping to accomplish by continuing to write
your blog? Any big plans or projects for the future?
My writing started with poems. Poetry seems to be a dying art but I can see
the true beauty within them. I started
writing the poems as a way to express the way I was feeling. It was a healing process I discovered for
myself as a way to deal with feelings and emotions that I use to cover up and
ignore with alcohol use. Once I got rid
of the alcohol, I needed an outlet and writing seemed to be my cure. I decided to buy a domain and start a blog as
a way to organize and save my poems.
Slowly I started sharing my blog posts with others. As everything else over time, my writing
began to grow and change. I started
writing my experiences. Writing them
down really helped me see the lesson within them. I actually learn a lot from my own
writing. I write because it helps heal me,
and I enjoy it. Over the past year, my
fan base began to grow and others started sharing their experiences with
me. They started asking me for advice.
This was truly a blessing. Not only do
others inspire me to write, but I cannot express the true joy I receive from
helping others. I believe the best
advice comes from experience. I can learn
from others and others can learn from me. There is nothing more beautiful than
people coming together ,sharing their experiences and learning from each other.
As far as the future goes, all I know
is that I will continue to write. I have
found that if I worry too much about what I will write in the future or try to
force it, the inspiration is hard to find.
Inspiration comes on its own time, and I believe that as long as you
have faith that it will come, it will. I
try to stay in the now, not worrying about the past or the future. I’ve spent most
of my life looking too far ahead and missing out on the now right in front of
me. I’m still discovering who I am and that's ok. I don’t believe I am here to tell people what they do is immoral. I don’t believe
I’m here to tell people that what they believe is unhealthy. I don’t believe I’m
here to tell people that the way they live is wrong. I believe I’m here to share my experience and
how I changed my life.
Do you read many other blogs?
Do you hope to see more of anything in the blogosphere?
Occasionally I will stumble across a
blog I enjoy, yours being one but great blogs are hard to come by these
days. I believe what is lacking in blogs
today is originality and experience.
That is what I’d love to see more of.
I just want to thank Emily so much for giving me the opportunity to feature her on my blog. She is so talented and I look forward constantly to seeing more from her. Her work has truly encouraged me to be more myself in my work and writing... whether it be the fact that I am a sexual person, an artistic person, a mom, a partner and a friend.
Check out her blog where you can find her poems, blogs, art, photos and videos.
xoxo...
Vanessa
Very inspiring. Smart, funny and hot?! Girl is a triple threat.
ReplyDeleteI am very proud of you Emily. Love you
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